Divorce Help

The most important decision you will make regarding a divorce is the process you and your spouse utilize. There are essentially four choices: do-it-yourself, mediation, collaborative divorce, or litigation. If possible, the most amicable route should be considered first, which is basically anything but litigation. If you have children, how you get divorced has as much or more impact as the divorce itself. You should thoroughly investigate these alternatives before you begin. Please see the resources below to access the information you need.

Once you get started, the next thing you need is professional advice in each area of the process – legal, emotional and financial. Sadly, many lawyers do not specialize in tax and finance but are not willing to farm out that part of the process. The result is that many couples and individuals are getting poor advice when it comes to the financial implications of their settlement options. It is up to you to seek out an experienced professional rather than rely on your lawyer.

This same issue applies to advice regarding your children and what is best for them. An experienced child development specialist should be consulted, especially when the kids are young, to determine what arrangements will be in their best interest.


If you would benefit from a group dedicated to supporting its members throughout the divorce process, please consider joining us on the third Thursday of the month for the Total Divorce Support Group in Westport from 7 – 8:30 PM.

The attendees consist of individuals going through the process and professionals from the legal, financial and mental health or coaching fields. We can answer any questions you might have, and you can hear from people that are going through the same process. For more information, please visit our events page.